Few things delight me more than women who take initiative, even if I’m not interested. But lately I’ve been bothered by how many young women have zero game, not just in “the game” but socially and as individuals. And this is not some grumpy-old-man observation. Much of it is generational, not merely a matter of age or experience. A couple of nights ago, I was being invaded by a young girl, very early 20s, who was obviously “on the prowl” that night. She had washed & done her hair, applied some makeup and perfume… and that’s about it. Physicality aside, everything about her appearance was a firm NO because totally nondescript. There was no sense of style whatsoever, let alone one that commands attention, although she didn’t look clownish like so many other young women. She hadn’t even bothered to put on a pair of heels despite her shorter stature. Mind you, she wasn’t being obnoxious or out offering herself, as is all too common these days. Then how petty of a hang-up over her not wearing heels? Appearance which you can easily control signals a lot more about you than do your genetics alone. In relation to how we appear in public, the “culture” has been conditioning women to be willfully ignorant of the most basic power dynamics arising from evolutionary psychology. Shunning heeled shoes, supposedly as a mark of empowerment, is just one of the most blatant examples. The Heel of Man – and Woman The heel is a weapon of war. The first heeled shoes are thought to have emerged in relation to the stirrup. Heeled boots provided horseback riders a more reliable vantage point than the saddle and stirrup alone. A heeled rider could maneuver the horse better, put more force into strikes with handheld weapons … Continue reading Healing the Heel